What are examples of I-statements?

“You always leave your mess lying everywhere.” “I feel frustrated when I come home and the house is messy.” “You don’t care about me or my feelings.”

What is the difference between an I-statement and a you statement?

“I” statements express thoughts, feelings, and ideas from a personal point of view. “You” statements focus on the person someone is speaking too rather the conflict; what they’re feeling or believe.

What does it mean to use I-statements?

An “I” message or “I” statement is a style of communication that focuses on the feelings or beliefs of the speaker rather than thoughts and characteristics that the speaker attributes to the listener.

How do you use I-statements in a relationship?

WHAT “I-STATEMENTS” COMMUNICATE TO OTHERS. By using “I-statements”, you take responsibility for how you feel, think and need. These statements require that you understand your needs and preferences, confidently explain the situation from your perspective, and make an action-oriented request.

What can I use instead of i statements?

You can make those “I” statements even more effective, however….Here’s how to fill out those five steps.

  • When you… state the specific action your partner takes.
  • I feel…
  • I imagine…
  • I need/want…
  • Would you…

What are the four I statements?

The Commission proposed a four-part I-message: “I feel ___ (taking responsibility for one’s own feelings) “I don’t like it when__ ” (stating the behavior that is a problem) “because____” (what it is about the behavior or its consequences that one objects to)

Are I-statements manipulative?

(See Tanya Glaser’s comments on “The Power of Vulnerability,” especially “[I-statements] can cause the other party to change their behavior by their own choice.”) An I-Statement is still meant to manipulate or control the other person’s behavior, and the hope that your odds of successfully manipulating the person will …

What are the four I-statements?

What are the 3 parts of an I statement?

* The three components are:

  • A brief, non-blameful description of the BEHAVIOR you find unacceptable.
  • Your FEELINGS.
  • The tangible and concrete EFFECT of the behavior on you.