Can you still love someone and hurt them?

Love is closely connected with vulnerability: the ability to hurt and to be hurt. Although some kinds of hurt in love are intended, most of them are not. Nevertheless, someone who deliberately hurts another person can simultaneously claim to love that person.

What to do if someone you love is hurting you?

They will help you develop some new techniques and keep you from reacting to new hurts in old ways.

  1. Recognize the offense for what it is.
  2. Resist the tendency to defend your position.
  3. Give up the need to be right.
  4. Recognize and apologize for anything you may have done to contribute to the situation.
  5. Respond, don’t react.

Why do I still have feelings for someone who treated me badly?

We feel they love us even though they treat us badly. This contradiction is known as cognitive dissonance, where we believe two contradictory thoughts at the same time. As a result of the contradiction we can become more extreme in our thoughts and behaviours as we wrestle with the disconnect.

How do you fix a relationship after saying hurtful things?

To help, experts offer nine tips for how to regain their trust.

  1. Own Up To Your Mistake — & Mistakes.
  2. Give Them As Much Time As They Need.
  3. Take Things Slowly.
  4. Be Gentle With Your Partner.
  5. Accept That Your Relationship May Have Permanently Changed.
  6. Be Fully Present.
  7. Listen To Your Partner.
  8. Try To Work Out Why You Hurt Them.

Why do I still love the man who hurt me?

Another reason people stay in hurtful relationships is our belief in what we call “unconditional love.” People often ask what unconditional love means, unsure whether we still have to love someone if they hurt us because we can’t attach conditions to love—such as refusing to tolerate abuse.